Pet Ownership in Illinois Divorce Cases

Pet owners love their pets and view them as an important part of their family.  Pet care is a multi-billion dollar industry, as evidenced by the increase in pet insurance, pet attire, specially made pet food, regular pet grooming services, and the number of pet pictures owners carry in their wallets.  About a third of pet owners have taken time off work to care for sick pets, and a recent survey revealed that more pet owners would rather be stranded on a desert island with their pets than their spouse.  With approximately half of all marriages in the United States ending in divorce, 39% of all households owning at least one dog, and 33% of all households owning at least one cat, it is inevitable that pet owners going through a divorce are bound to ask: “Who keeps Fido or Fluffy after the divorce?”

The reality is that, in Illinois, a pet is viewed as an item of personal property.  In dividing the parties’ property, Illinois courts categorize property as either marital (i.e., belonging to both spouses) or non-marital (i.e., belonging to one spouse).  The court then awards each party his or her non-marital property and an equitable portion of the marital property.

Non-marital property includes property acquired by gift, legacy or descent; property acquired before the marriage; and property excluded by valid agreement of the parties.  In other words, if one of the parties owned the pet before the marriage or received the pet as a gift or part of an inheritance, or if the parties agreed who would own the pet after the marriage dissolved, the court would award the pet as part of that party’s non-marital property.

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Don’t Delay Seeking College Contribution from Your Ex-Spouse

One of the issues typically reserved in contested divorce cases is who will pay the children’s college after they graduate high school.  Typically, most Marital Settlement Agreements will reserve this issue for determination at a later date, primarily because it is difficult to forecast how each party’s financial circumstances will look when the children ultimately attend college.  If the children are quite young, it is even more difficult to predict where each party will be financially and whether college expenses will even be needed based upon the children’s scholastic abilities.

Section 513 of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act allows the Court to allocate expenses between both parents, as well as the child, based upon an examination of factors which include the parties’ financial resources, the standard of living the child would have enjoyed had the marriage not terminated, the child’s financial resources, and the child’s academic prowess.  However, even in situations in which the issue of payment of college expenses has been reserved in a Marital Settlement Agreement, a spouse may wait too long to pursue college contribution from an ex-spouse, because his or her ability seek retroactive contribution to college expenses under Illinois law is limited.

The Illinois Supreme Court recently ruled that a petitioning party cannot obtain contribution from the other spouse for college expenses that were incurred prior to the date the petition was filed, if the Marital Settlement Agreement reserved the issue of how much, if any, each spouse should contribute to the cost of a child’s college education.  In re Marriage of Peterson, 2011 IL 110984.

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Shared Parenting Time In Dual Income Families

As working parents’ roles in the lives of their children evolve with the demands of the modern economy, so too do their parental rights as divorced parents.

Traditionally, a child’s custodial parent would be the primary residential parent and child support recipient and the non-custodial parent would pay child support and be granted “visitation.” Those of us raised in the 1970’s and 80’s remember the “one evening per week and every other weekend” schedule as the de facto visitation for all the divorced fathers we knew. Expanded parenting time, or even joint legal custody (the right to an equal say in the major decisions affecting a child’s life), were reserved for the most amicable of divorced parents.

Oh how times have changed. In today’s negotiations, more non-custodial parents are asking to expand their weekends to include Thursdays and/or Mondays, so that they too can participate in the children’s school routine, whether that be helping with homework, packing lunches, or just staying involved in the day-to-day lives of their children. Overnights on school nights, extended weekends and the like are much more prevalent today than in the past.

Our traditional model of parenting time was predicated on the notion that most families were single income earning families. Mom was staying home with the kids and Dad was out working 9:00 to 5:00 Monday through Friday. That is not the world we live in anymore, and our parenting schedules are reflecting that trend. In today’s economy, two income earner households are the norm and more married parents divide responsibilities for the children. If the parents in dual income families divorce, the allocation of shared responsibilities established during the marriage may lend itself to a shared parenting time schedule post-divorce.

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I’m Dissatisfied with the Trial Court’s Decision – What Can I Do?

The trial court judge issued a final judgment in your dissolution of marriage case disposing of all outstanding issues between you and your former spouse.  However, you are unhappy with the judgment for any number of reasons.  Perhaps you are disappointed that the court awarded you and your former spouse joint custody of your children rather than awarding you sole custody.  Perhaps you feel that the judge incorrectly adopted your former spouse’s position on the valuation of your business, residence, or piece of real estate.  Or perhaps the court awarded you maintenance (formerly known as alimony) for a shorter duration than you believe you were entitled to.  What can you do?

One option is to file an appeal with the reviewing court.  An attorney specializing in appellate law will be able to assist you.  An appeal is a formal request that a higher court review the lower court’s decision.  In Illinois, a party generally files an appeal first with the Illinois Appellate Court.  If you are the party bringing the appeal and challenging the court’s decision, you are referred to as the appellant.  If you are the party defending the appeal, you are referred to as the appellee.  However, if both parties are dissatisfied with the judgment, both parties may simultaneously appeal the judgment, which is called a cross-appeal.

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Returning to School in Middle Age: Hey Mom, I Got an LLM!

Well, if anyone had told me that I would go back to school at age 51, I would have told them they were crazy.  I was not looking to return to school at that point in my life.  However, I was encouraged by my firm to take classes in an LLM program to prepare myself to practice and specialize in a slightly different area of law.  The opportunity sounded interesting, so I went ahead and applied to The John Marshall Law School to participate in the employee benefits LLM program.

I was afraid that I would not be able to keep up with the younger students because I thought it was harder to learn as you get older.  However, I learned that my years of work experience actually helped me to understand the concepts more readily than did some of the youngsters who had never worked.  I also enjoyed getting to know the other students and the professors, whom I otherwise would never have met.

I did find, however, that I was at a disadvantage when it came to technology.  When I attended law school, no one had a laptop computer.  Now, everyone has one and everything is done on line.  Want to sign up for a class?  Do it online.  No more standing in line and turning in registration forms.  Want to check your grades?  Do it online.  Nothing is mailed out.  Want to know what special speakers or other events are being offered by the school?  Check it online.  There is no school newspaper or newsletter announcing events.  Everything is all online.  Classes can even be taken on line instead of in person.  All of these changes turned out to be more challenging for someone like me, who is less technically sophisticated than the younger students, than learning the actual subject matter.  I even had to break down and buy a laptop.  Then there was the fun of explaining to my family and friends what the degree was that I was working toward.  What does LLM stand for?  Legum Magister or Master of Laws.

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Divorcing in a Volatile Economic Market

In uncertain times, dividing the matrimonial pie is more than slicing equal pieces

For couples contemplating a divorce, the volatility in the financial and real estate markets has created an impediment that has left many questioning how they will achieve future financial security while attempting to establish two households.  A common goal may be to split assets equitably, not necessarily  50/50, but all assets are not created equal, and establishing fair market value can be challenging at best.

In these uncertain times, we are focusing on two key messages with our clients.  Number one, make sound financial, not emotional decisions.  And number two, work to create mutual benefit.  This is important at all times, but especially in unpredictable ones like we’re experiencing today.

As you navigate the financial aspect of the divorce process, you should

Develop a realistic budget.

Recognize the financial reality of establishing and maintaining two separate households by developing a realistic budget during and after the divorce.

Thoroughly review your assets and establish fair market value.

Calculating the fair value of your assets can be challenging.  It’s important to consider both the cost and value of assets such as real estate, investments, personal property and a business.

Strive for diversification in division of assets.

The new normal in dividing assets is to understand the risk factors associated with all classes and diversify.  Just as with investing, you don’t want to put all your eggs in one basket.

Be civil.

Recognizing the real financial hardships of divorce can be challenging, but it’s important to divide your assets constructively without causing resentment.  The decisions are difficult to make, but with the guidance of a good family law attorney you can reach an agreement that is mutually beneficial to both partners.

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If Your Child is Not Fit, Are You an Unfit Parent? Removal of Obese Children from Home

Obesity is a huge problem in this country for children as well as adults.  Between 16 and 33 percent of children and adolescents are obese,     defined as more than 20% over ideal weight, while morbidly obese means 50- 100% over ideal weight.

Recently a 200-pound 8-year-old was removed from his home and placed in foster care because the state claimed that his parents were not doing enough to control his weight.   Normal weight for a child his age would be about 60 pounds.  While rare, other morbidly obese children have been removed from their homes in the past.   All of these cases have arisen as abuse and neglect cases in Juvenile Court, not as custody issues in divorce cases.  However, all turned on the best interests of the child, the standard for all child custody decisions in Illinois.

Experts argue whether or not it truly is in the best interest of obese children to remove them from home.   The issue is that generally, the entire family needs to revise its eating and exercise habits, not just the child.  The child may learn better eating and exercise habits in another care situation, but the psychological harm of removing the child from home may damage the child emotionally.   Removal is a last resort option in all cases in order to provide help that the parent(s) can’t provide.  Prior to removal, other counseling and treatments were recommended or ordered, but unfortunately, for a variety of reasons, such interventions failed.  The better solution would probably be to get the entire family a diet counselor and trainer to learn healthier habits.

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Planning Tips for Stress-Free Holidays

Parents facing separation or divorce can find joy in the holidays with proper planning

A good plan is like a road map, and although members of families coping with divorce may be traveling somewhat different routes, it is possible to find joy during the holiday season if parents think ahead and carefully plan ways to anticipate and avoid unwelcome detours.

To help develop such a plan, an attorney skilled in family and divorce law can work with parents to chart the best route for all concerned, since both parents and children benefit from knowing in advance how the holidays will be celebrated. Transitions are difficult for everyone, including the children, but a fair plan will allow everyone to take advantage of time together and to make the best of it.  When developing the plan, parents should consider the following:

Be creative: Consider new traditions.

Yes, things will be different.  “Different” is hard but it doesn’t have to be bad.  Although there is only one Thanksgiving day, that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate the holiday, just do it on a different day.  Giving thanks certainly isn’t limited to one day a year, and the spirit of hope and generosity is not confined to Christmas.

Develop a budget.

Be sure your plan includes a realistic budget based the experience of past years. Remember that while gifts are important, the best gift you can give your children is the time you spend together.

Pay attention to your emotions.

Resist the urge to allow past grievances to cloud the potential for enjoying happy times. Put unresolved issues on hold and let yourselves savor the moment.

Focus on finding joy in the holidays.

When you know that your children will be away, plan ahead to be with friends or other family members so you are not alone on holidays.

In short, careful planning enables you to enjoy the pleasures of the holidays. These occasions don’t sneak up on us, yet even at Christmas time it is not uncommon to see family lawyers and their clients standing before a judge on December 23rd because of poor planning. Emotional turmoil like that can be prevented if divorcing parents and their attorneys are proactive and prepare for the holidays. The earlier this is done, the better, and now is a good time to begin.

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Combating Domestic Violence in Affluent Families

Victims of domestic violence surround us. Many victims from affluent families serve as pillars of our community, attend professional and charitable events with us, volunteer at our children’s schools, or are simply neighbors.  Outwardly, they appear to enjoy the luxuries and quality of life that the Chicago area provides, but their private lives are drastically different from their public persona.

While the true number of victims may never be known because the crime often goes unreported, research confirms that domestic violence in affluent families is a grave and epidemic issue.  “Elevated socioeconomic status can make domestic violence more difficult to report,” acknowledges Bradley Bloom, Chief of Police for the Hinsdale Police Department.  “For many victims they don’t want to come forward because it serves as affirmation of the demise of their marriage,” added Gary J. Schira, Chief of Police for the City of Batavia.  Both chiefs agree the stigma alone is a major deterrent to reporting the abuse.

For those victims who are ready to take the first step in asking for help, there are many protections that today’s laws now offer.  If there is an immediate threat to one’s health or welfare, contacting the police should always be the first call a victim makes.  For those victims who are considering divorce, but where there is no immediate threat, a family law attorney should be the resource relied upon.  One of the first steps an attorney can help with as part of an exit strategy is to secure a civil order of protection.  Such orders offer many levels of security for a victim, such as preventing the abuser from having any contact with the victim and the children, removing the abuser from the residence, or preventing the abuser from coming to the victim’s place of employment or the children’s schools.

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Am I Frozen Out of My Spouse’s Frozen Pension Plan?

Many traditional defined benefit pension plans that provide a monthly annuity payment to the employee at retirement have been frozen over the past decade.  There are a number of reasons why corporations are freezing their pension plans, mostly economic.  What does a freeze on a pension plan mean to the employees and their spouses?

The simple answer is that a freeze on a pension plan means that the plan does not make any further additions to the employee’s benefit.  Benefits in a traditional pension plan are generally based upon a formula that considers salary and years of service.  The benefit grows larger with the number of years employed and salary increases.  When a pension plan is frozen, the benefit ceases growing.  The benefit is locked in at the amount earned when the plan is frozen.  A frozen pension plan still pays benefits.  However, the amount of the benefit is limited to the sum accumulated when the plan was frozen.

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